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The escalating concern for teens

I am a mom

I have a daughter

I am scared!

After hours of research to find out what the difference in teens are through the decades, I realised that it is just as difficult for us being parents to a teen as it is for the teens to find the adult in them.

Let me first start off by perhaps giving the teens a head start before I state the gruelling truths.

On livescience.com there is a very good and thorough explanation on why teens emotions are so much more intense. To sum all this medical lingo up into laymans terms – until the teen’s brain learn to process emotions better, because in teen time (aka puberty) the brain is not fully connected with the body or mature enough to place emotions, there might be a lot of moments where they are misread by teachers and parents or vice-versa. There is a war between hormones, sensory processing and emotional responses. This give rise to intense experiences of rage, fear, aggression (including to themselves), excitement and sexual attraction. As they get older, the different areas in their brain become more connected and brings better planning, impulse control and higher order of thought.

Now for the scary part, some of which mommies with teens are already fighting with and only a handful concerns of so many

The percentages of teens with negative feelings and responses in the quest to find, what they believe a better person must be, is absolutely shocking. They are high, some almost 100%. These research statistics are taken from heartofleadership.org, but they are repeated on so many other websites.

74% of teen girls feel under pressure to please everyone 78% at the age of 17 are unhappy with their body. 92% want to change how they look and body weight scores the highest. Some seriously considering cosmetic procedures 90% teen girls have eating disorders

It is heart breaking to know that teenagers fight so hard to fit in. In our modern world with technology controlling our lives, it must be even worse fighting through puberty.

98% teens feel a great pressure from external sources. Social Media being the worst culprit.

This makes it so much harder for parents too. How can we fight the developing world? Teenagers, in general, don’t talk to parents, no matter their relationship. Yet, 49% of teen girls need encouragement from her parents or mentor to pursue something, because of her self-esteem naturally being low. Often on stage everything looks glamorous because we never see what goes on back stage. That is why I suppose communication and true connection is vital.

Teenagers don’t have a fighting chance. Nature, social media and peers push&pull these poor souls in so many directions and we as parents have to fight against it all with words of encouragement, forgiveness and patience. There will always be statistics with everything, the quest should be focused on getting the numbers down. How to do it is easy, but to accomplish it is the hardest part.

So, my conclusion to this is that we cannot stop what is happening with the world and in our body. We cannot stop technology directing us and we cannot stop our body from developing. The best we can do is to educate ourselves. Perhaps Sir Francis Bacon is right “Knowledge is Power”. We need to teach our teenagers all the good and bad of everything so that when they are faced with decision making, they will make a better, more informed choice. It is also good to teach them to seek a mentor, someone that they can talk to and trust and give great advice when they feel that parents won’t suffice.

We can teach a daughter how a lady should act and a son how a gentleman should be. Fine little details to restore respect in teenagers to give them more self-worth to make them aware that they should rather seek the truth and verify before making up their mind

We can teach a daughter how a lady should act and a son how a gentleman should be. Fine little details to restore respect in teenagers to give them more self-worth to make them aware that they should rather seek the truth and verify before making up their mind